Bullies are So Last Year: How to Stop Faking it and Start Loving Your Unique Self
This is a post by one of our student writers, Olivia LeBlanc. Olivia is sharing her personal experience with how to love yourself and overcome bullying, and has some great insights. Thank you, Olivia, for writing this! If you are a Spring Hill-area student and have a topic you’d like to write about on our site, be sure to reach out and contact us.
School is hard sometimes, whether it’s bullies, friends, homework, or even just trying to find who you are and where you belong. Believe me when I say that things could even get harder along the way. That’s why I want to tell you how I manage to get through it.
Bullies are hard to deal with. They say rude things and they can really get your self esteem down. Sometimes you don’t want to go to school because of them. One way to deal with bullies is what I call the “you’re right” method. My mom showed me a video once of a man who showed people how to deal with bullies. Whenever they would come to him and call him a name, he’d look at them and say “You’re right. I am stupid. Oh hey, I like your shirt! Is that a new shirt? It looks very nice.” Whenever they would try to get him down, he would change the subject and say something nice.
Another option is to ask for help. Don’t be afraid to get help if you need it! There are many supportive people out there who can help you put a stop to bullying, one bully at a time.
Another big problem that many people have is being unhappy being themselves. In middle school, I was always trying to dress up nice and put makeup on in order to feel normal or accepted. Later I realized that the more I tried to do to make myself look a certain way, the more I lost my true self and created a fake wannabe. My friends liked me for who I was, and when I changed myself, they told me how much they missed the real me.
You also don’t have to try to make yourself look good on social media. It doesn’t show who you really are, unless you want to be someone fake. Dr. Seuss once said “Be who you are, say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” I know a lot of people get caught up in social media and begin to feel like their worth is based on how many likes they get, but that isn’t a true representation of how great you are.
People who have Instagram might want to share all about themselves, their life, to others. Or, they may just want to feel special and popular. Those who wear makeup sometimes do it because they want to cover up what’s “unpretty” about themselves (which isn’t true– you’re beautiful how you are!) or because they want to feel better than others. Let me make it clear: You are beautiful in your own way! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
If someone does say you’re ugly, or you’re not pretty enough, why believe them? It’s like saying the sky is rainbow and somehow everyone believes it, but your proof is right there in the sky that it’s not truth. The proof that you are beautiful in your own way is right there. I’m telling you right now:
You are amazing.
You are perfect.
You are YOU.
You are be-you-tiful.
Keep your head held high and know that you are amazing, unique, perfect… you are YOU!
Be yourself because being an original is worth more than a copy.
Be yourself because no one can tell you’re doing it wrong.
Be yourself because everyone else is taken.
Olivia LeBlanc is a seventh grade student. She has two older sisters and lives on a farm with her family’s cows, calves, horse, and dog. She loves doing 4H and entering things in the Johnson County Fair each year.